Shorts 04 | Feliks Eyser: A Startup Is Not a Family

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Why Startups Aren't Families – and What Really Matters

Many companies rely on the family approach to build strong teams. The idea: if everyone feels like one big family, they'll work better together. But Feliks Eyser has a different perspective – and his approach could fundamentally change how you think about team building.

The Myth of the Corporate Family

The phrase "We're like a family" is ubiquitous in the startup world. Companies advertise with it, create shared rituals, and try to build emotional bonds between team members. At first glance, this seems logical – after all, we spend most of our time with colleagues.

But here lies the first problem: families aren't structured around performance. Families are about unconditional love, belonging, and emotional support – regardless of performance. In a startup or company, the requirements are completely different.

What Really Makes a High-Performance Team?

Feliks Eyser argues that true high-performance teams must be built on different foundations. Instead of focusing on emotional connection, it's about:

Clear goals and expectations: Everyone on the team knows exactly what's expected of them and how success is measured. There's no ambiguity about roles, responsibilities, or objectives.

Professional collaboration: The basis of collaboration is mutual respect and professional appreciation – not personal sympathy or emotional attachment.

Performance-oriented culture: The team is aligned around delivering results. Decisions are made based on data and facts, not feelings or personal relationships.

The Danger of the Family Model

When startups try to function like families, unwanted side effects often emerge:

• –Difficult personnel decisions: How do you let go of a "family member" who isn't performing?
• –Blurred boundaries: The lines between personal relationships and professional requirements become unclear
• –Emotional manipulation: The family concept can be used to justify overtime or poor compensation

The Better Way: Professional Excellence

Instead of relying on the family model, startups should build a culture of professional excellence. This means:

Transparent communication: Feedback is given directly and constructively. Problems are addressed openly without personal feelings getting in the way.

Meritocracy: Promotions and decisions are based on performance and competence, not personal relationships.

Clear separation: Professional and private relationships are consciously kept separate to enable professional decision-making.

Practical Implementation

How do you build such a team as a founder? Start with clear structures and processes. Define measurable goals and communicate them transparently. Create a culture where constructive feedback is valued and where performance is rewarded.

This doesn't mean you need to become cold or inhumane. It's about setting professional standards and implementing them consistently – for the benefit of the entire team and the company.

A high-performance team doesn't emerge through emotional attachment, but through shared goals, mutual respect, and the unwavering commitment to achieve extraordinary results together.